“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend,” Janay Rice wrote. “But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family. To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing. To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass off for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific.
“THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels. Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is!”
So, this is what Janay Rice had to say on her Instagram account regarding the horrific elevator knock-out video and the subsequent release of her husband Ray Rice from the Ravens and the NFL. I have such a hard time with women like this. In one regard I want to defend her and protect her and make excuses for her thought process because who knows how long she’s been battered, abused and degraded in her life to make her feel like THIS response is the appropriate one to have. On the other side I am purely disgusted that she could lash out at the media and the public for feeling what is the ONLY correct way to feel when a man knocks a woman out cold and drags her body from an elevator! Let me dissect her statement a little.
“I woke up this morning feeling like I had a horrible nightmare, feeling like I’m mourning the death of my closest friend…”
This is what she should feel about her husband, her marriage and what has happened.
“But to have to accept the fact that it’s reality is a nightmare in itself. No one knows the pain that the media & unwanted options from the public has caused my family…”
It truly is a nightmare, Janay, I’ll agree with you there. But the pain you and your family are experiencing has not been caused by anyone other than your angry, abusive excuse for a husband. I am assuming that you meant “unwanted opinions” rather than “unwanted options” from the public, and well, let me clue you in on a little fact: Your husband is a public figure. He is supposed to be a role model. He is held to a higher standard than other men because he is talented in a way that appeals to citizens of this nation. They pay a ton of money, time and attention to your husband and other men like him every year, essentially, buying the right to an opinion. You should have married a no name piece of shit instead of a big name piece of shit if you didn’t want the public’s opinion about him beating the hell out of you.
“To make us relive a moment in our lives that we regret every day is a horrible thing.”
He should be regretting that moment, you should be regretting the moments since.
“To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass off for all his life just to gain ratings is horrific.”
HE TOOK IT AWAY FROM HIMSELF. Just like Michael Vick took it away from himself for awhile, (and in my opinion should have never gotten it back, but that’s another story.) and Aaron Hernandez took it away from himself. Should we have all turned a blind eye to animal abuse, violence and murder, because of how hard these guys worked to get where they were? I guarantee they worked their asses off too. Teachers all over the country work hard to earn degrees and obtain teaching positions, does that mean when one of them decides to sleep with a fourteen year old student we should just let it go? It is a shame that Ray decided to throw away everything he has worked so hard for by being a complete asshole. I know I share the opinion with many others, when I say that he certainly looked comfortable with his decision to knock you out cold and drag your body around afterwards. Makes me think he’s probably done it a time or two before. Luck runs out for every criminal eventually. Oh, and there are PLENTY of other stories in the country right now with the ability to “gain ratings” other than your story, so I have a feeling that ratings aren’t the only reason we all know about this.
“THIS IS OUR LIFE! What don’t you all get. If your intentions were to hurt us, embarrass us, make us feel alone, take all happiness away, you’ve succeeded on so many levels…”
Yes! It is your life! Please feel free to go about living it in peace and quiet, and out of the spot light now that your husband is no longer someone that I have to worry about my sons looking up to and imitating. You can’t have it both ways Dear. You can’t benefit from the media and the public and the fame and fortune it brings and then ask them to let you live your life how ever the hell you want outside of the boundaries of the law and human decency. Direct your anger towards Ray. He hurt you, embarrassed you, made you feel alone, took away your happiness and you’ve succeeded in allowing him to do it. You could have made such a mark Janay. You could have been a beacon of hope for abused women. You could have been a role model for our little girls, to show them that money, power, fame and a “name” doesn’t buy love and does not excuse violence. You could have been a motivational speaker, written a book, toured every talk show in the circuit. You could have stood up for women. Instead, you stood by your “man.” Your spoiled rotten, quick tempered, woman-hating, abusive little “man.” So… what don’t we all get, you ask? We don’t get you. We don’t get you being upset and angry towards people who are defending YOU and pushing back against what was done to you. Do you have any idea how many women are trapped in situations like yours but have no evil and intrusive media exposing their abusers? Do you know how many women have no way to hide, run away from or protect their kids from the violence that they live every day? They don’t have the pesky public coming to their defense demanding justice. Their abusers are heading off to their jobs where no one is holding them accountable, and coming back home to punch them out over and over again. I guess you think they are lucky since they are free to live their lives in secret?
“Just know we will continue to grow & show the world what real love is!”
You will never show the world “what love really is,” because true love can NEVER, EVER, EVER include violence the way your relationship has. Your marriage is a sham. Your “love” is an illusion and if you honestly think that you can teach or show the world one little thing about what a real marriage and love entails, I can’t even be angry…I just pity you.
Ladies, please hear me. There is nothing noble, strong or respectable about a woman who forgives and accepts the kind of abuse that Janay Rice has, in the name of love. Men, there is nothing manly, strong or respectable about abuse against a woman you say that you love. Love and violence are as far away from each other as you can get. There is never an excuse, there is never an exception and I don’t care if you have millions in the bank or pennies in your pocket, if someone lays their hands on you, get out of the relationship immediately. It will happen again. If you have children living in an abusive situation with you, you need to remove them from that situation immediately. Your daughters need to know that it is never okay to be a man’s punching bag and your sons need to know it is never okay to victimize a woman. If you are in an abusive situation where the roles are reversed, it is equally important to get out. Men, it is never okay to allow a woman to assault you, and though you may feel you can handle it since you’re a “man” and she’s “just a girl” you are wrong. She can injure you, turn it all around against you, and you can end up paying a hefty price for her abuse. If you are being abused please seek help from someone you trust, local authorities or contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233.